*Have you ever wondered what the term “Soft Skills” really means?*
— Ramu, 24/4/2025

Today is World Book Day, and I’d like to share one *simple yet powerful secret about how to truly enjoy and benefit from reading books.*

It’s not just about books—this *applies to any piece of reading.*

Before you start reading, pause and ask yourself:

– *What do I think the author is going to say in this article, essay, or book?*

Make a quick mental note of your expectation.

Then, read the content. Once you finish, check if what the author conveyed matches your mental note.

– If it does—pat yourself on the back!
– If it doesn’t, evaluate whether the author’s perspective offers a better understanding.
– If it does, *you’ll experience that delightful “Aha!” moment.*

Let’s try this right now. Take a moment and make a mental note:

*”What do they mean by Soft Skills?”*

*Pause…*

Now, start reading.

One of my close friends recently asked me *what soft skills his son should start learning.*

I replied with a basic but important question:

– *”First, do you understand what Soft Skills actually mean?”*

He started listing things like “spoken English,” “Excel,” “Word,” etc.

I clarified, *“I didn’t ask about examples or types of Soft Skills.* I asked—what is the meaning of Soft Skills?”

Then I called his son, who had just joined an MNC straight from campus. *He too kept circling around without a clear answer.*

So, what is meant by Soft Skills?

The clue lies in the word “Soft” itself. *Soft means flexible—like a tissue, not like a bone.*

– *Skills that are tied to a specific profession or technical domain are called Hard Skills.*

If you quit a job and the skills you’ve acquired can’t be applied elsewhere, they fall under this category.

Examples of Hard Skills include Carpentry, Plumbing, Electrical work, ITI trades like Turner, Welder, Fitter, and even professions like Doctors and Nurses. These take time to build and once built, they stay with you—but are usually field-specific.

– On the other hand, *skills that are useful across various fields and industries—those are Soft Skills.*

– *Every industry needs them.*

Examples include Sales, Accountancy, Analytical Thinking, Logical Reasoning, Conflict Management, Problem Solving, Comprehension, Communication, Training, etc.

As I have said in the beginning,  Soft Skills are like Tissue and Hard Skills are like Bone, your Tissue shall be in right shape and useful  only if it’s built around Bones.

That means, *Soft Skills are “NOT STAND ALONE but Hard Skills are!.”* It adds value if one possesses Hard Skills.

*I hope this aligns with the mental note you made—or better yet, gave you that “Aha!” moment.*

Softly yours,
Ramu

My dear Lovable Atharva,

I wish you the following on the eve of your 7th birthday.

(1) Let your lungs become bigger and succeed in your “SWIMMING” competition.

(2) Let your bones become stronger and Excel in all your “karate” competition.

(3) Let you grow taller and become an excellent “basketball” player.

(4) Let your brain sharper by doing more “Maths.”

(5) Let your mind expand by  “Reading” more number of story books.

My heartfelt wishes to you and let all your dreams come real.

Lovingly, Grandpa

*ஒரு சாமானியனின் பரிணாமவளர்ச்சி – இன்று இரண்டாம் முறையாக புதிதாய் பிறந்தேன்:*
– ராமு  – 19/4/2025

நான் +2 படிக்கும் காலம் முதல், பொறியியல் கல்லூரி மாணவனாக உருவெடுத்து பின் முதுகலை முடித்து டாடா இரும்பு தொழிற்சாலையில் வேலைக்கு சேரும்வரை  “கலை மற்றும் அறிவியல், வணிகவியல்” மாணவர்களை சற்று இளக்காரமாக, ஒரு மாற்று குறைந்தவர்கள் என்ற அளவிலேயே அவர்களை மதிப்பிடுவது, கலந்து உரையாடுவது போன்றவை என் மனத்துள் நடக்கும்.

முதன் முதலில் 35 வயதில் CAT – போட்டி தேர்வுக்கு தயார் செய்யும் பொழுதில் தொடங்கி “மேலாண்மை படிப்பு” முடிக்கும் வரை நான் சந்தித்த பல “கலை, அறிவியல் மற்றும் வணிகவியல்” மாணவர்களின் அசாத்திய திறமை கண்டு சில சமயங்களில் வெட்கி தலை குனிந்து, பிறகு அவர்களை விட்டு ஒதுங்கி, பிறகு அவர்கள் அறைக்கே சென்று “ஆங்கிலம், அக்கௌன்டன்ஸ், பொருளாதாரம்” போன்றவற்றைக் கற்றுக்கொள்ள நேர்ந்த போது *நான் என்னை முதன் முதலில் அன்று புதிதாய் பிறந்த மனிதனாக என்னை உணர்ந்தேன்.*

அதே போன்று போன வாரம் வரையில் நான் பிறந்து வளர்ந்த சின்னஞசிறிய ஊர்களிலேயே தங்கிவிட்டவர்களை சற்று மாற்று குறைவாக பார்க்கும் குணம் என்னுள் இருந்தது.

என் சொந்த ஊரான காரைக்குடி அருகில் *”கோட்டையூர் நகர சிவன் கோவில்”* நகைகளை இரண்டு ஆண்டுகளுக்கு நிர்வகிக்கும் பொறுப்பு எனக்கு தரப்பட்டது.

ஊரில் உட்கார்ந்து கொண்டு வெட்டி அரசியல் செய்பவர்கள் மத்தியில் நம்மைப் போன்று நகரத்தில் மிகவும் துறுதுறுவென நிற்க நேரமில்லாமல் இயங்கும் மனிதர்களுக்கு இது சரிப்பட்டு வராது என்று எண்ணியபடியே பயணித்தேன்.

எங்கள் ஊர் சிவன் கோவில் மிகவும் அற்புத அமைதியுடன், தெய்வீகக்களையுடன் கூடியது.

என் சென்னை நண்பர்கள் பலரையும் எங்கள் சிவன் கோவில் அற்புதத்தைக் காட்டி பெருமைப்பட்டுக் கொள்வேன்.

என் போன்ற ஒவ்வொன்றையும் (pure analytical and judemental) ஆராய்ந்து, பகுத்தறியும் தன்மை உடையவர்களுக்கே *”விசேட நாட்களில் சாமி வெள்ளி அங்கி அணிவித்து அலங்காரம் செய்துஇருப்பது கண்கொள்ளா காட்சியாக இருக்கும்”.*

– அப்போதெல்லாம் ஒரு நாளும் யார் அலங்கரித்து இருப்பார்கள், யார் இந்த கோயிலை இவ்வுளவு தெய்வீகமாக நிர்வாகம் செய்கிறார்கள் என்று ஒரு மணித்துளி நினைத்து பார்த்தது கிடையாது.

இந்த முறை போகும் போது எங்கள் பிரிவைச் சேர்ந்த ஒவ்வொருவரும் சேர்ந்து அவர்களுக்குள் சுற்றுமுறை போட்டுக்கொண்டு பல ஈகோ மற்றும் உள்ளூர் அரசியலுக்குள்ளும் தங்கள் கோவில், தங்கள் நகைகள், தங்கள் ஊர் என்று நிர்வகித்து வருவதைக் கண்டு வெட்கி தலை குனிந்து என்னை சபித்துக்கொண்டேன்.

என்றோ ஆண்டிற்கு ஒரு முறை ஊருக்கு போகும்போது, காலையில் “Hindu paper” வேண்டும் என்று சொன்னால் என் பாட்டி ஒரு கடையை காட்டி அங்கே போய் கேள் என்பார்கள்.

யாரோ என் வயதை ஒத்தவன், தங்கள் பெற்றோர் மீது கொண்ட பற்றின் காரணமாக அல்லது ஊரை விட்டு பிரிய மனமில்லாமல் அங்கேயே தங்கி விட்டாலும் அவனுக்குள் இருக்கும் “entreprenerial mindset” தொழில்முனையும் எண்ணம்தானே அவனை “என் போன்றோர் வந்தால் ஆங்கில நாளிதழ் தேவை” என்று எண்ணி வாங்கி வைத்து இருக்கிறான்.

இது போல் நம் பிறந்த ஊரை வருடத்திற்கு ஒரு முறை செல்லும் போது *நமக்கு “ready to use” என்ற நிலையில் வைத்து இருப்பவர்கள் அவர்கள் தானே* என்று உணர்ந்த பொழுது

– *”இன்று இரண்டாம் முறையாக புதிதாய் பிறந்தேன்”* என்ற உணர்வு என்னுள் ஏற்பட்டது.

“சாதி, மதம்” பார்க்க மாட்டேன் என்பதைக் கடந்து “படிப்பு, அந்தஸ்து, வாகனம், பயன்படுத்தும் மொழி, உணவு” போன்ற எந்த வகையும் படுத்தாமல் ஒவ்வொருவரையும் தனக்கு சம அளவில் மதிப்பது, அவர்களுடன் கலந்து உரையாடுவது வேண்டும் என்று உணரும் போது *நாம் அனைவரும் “இன்று புதிதாய் பிறந்தோம்”* என்ற தெய்வீக உணர்வுக்கு ஆட்படுவோம்.

அன்புடன்,
ராமு

*The Evolution of an Ordinary Man – Today, I Was Born Again for the Second Time:*
– Ramu – 19/4/2025

From the time I was a higher secondary student, and later an engineering college student, until I completed my post-graduation and joined Tata Steel, I used to view students from “arts, science, and commerce” streams a bit condescendingly— *as slightly less competent, and that reflected in how I assessed and interacted with them.*

It was only when I began preparing for the CAT exam at the age of 35 and pursued a management degree that I came face-to-face with many arts, science, and commerce students of remarkable talent.

– At times, I felt so humbled by their abilities that I bowed my head in shame, distanced myself initially, and eventually found myself going to their rooms to learn English, Accounts, Economics, and more.

– *That was the first time I truly felt I had been born anew.*

Likewise, until last week, I had a subtle tendency to view those who remained in the small towns we grew up in as somehow “less than.”

Recently, I was entrusted with the responsibility of managing the Kottaiyur Nagar Sivan Temple’s jewellery near my hometown Karaikudi for a two-year term.

Surrounded by local political figures who stay rooted in the village, I initially assumed that a city-bred, fast-paced person like me wouldn’t fit in with this slow, grounded environment.

– But the Sivan temple in our town is one of peace and divine grace. I’ve proudly taken many of my Chennai friends there to show off its spiritual beauty.

– *Even someone like me—rational, analytical, and often judgmental—couldn’t help but be awestruck by the temple’s divine energy during special days when Lord Siva is adorned with silver attire.*

And yet, I had never once paused to wonder: Who decorates the deity? Who so beautifully manages this divine place?

*This time, I witnessed firsthand how our temple’s volunteers take turns, navigating egos and local politics, to selflessly manage the temple, the jewellery, and the community.*

– I felt ashamed. I silently scolded myself for having judged them all these years.

Years ago, whenever I visited my village and asked for The Hindu newspaper in the morning, my grandmother would point to a shop and say, “Go ask there.”

– That shopkeeper—perhaps someone my age—may have remained there either due to his love for his parents or an unwillingness to leave his hometown.

– Yet, within him existed an entrepreneurial mindset—he stocked The Hindu thinking that someone like me might come asking for it.

*These are the people who ensure our hometown is always “READY TO USE” for us when we visit once a year.*

And when I truly grasped that, a deep feeling emerged from within me:
– *Today, I was born again for the second time.*

To go beyond caste and religion, and also beyond education, status, car, language, or food habits, to *respect everyone equally and interact with them without prejudice*—

– *That moment of realization is when we are all truly reborn.*

With love,
Ramu

*The Power of Checklists: A Personal Short Travel Guide:*
– Ramu, 15/4/2025

One of the greatest breakthroughs of the 20th century is the widespread use of checklists.

According to the legendary doctor and author Atul Gawande, as mentioned in his book, *“Checklists have saved more lives during surgery than doctors themselves.”*

The value of checklists isn’t limited to the medical field. *They have become an integral part of the aviation industry, reducing flight accidents to near zero.*

More recently, checklists have found their way into investment practices as well. *Today, it’s safe to say that no major fund house makes buy or sell decisions without a checklist in hand.*

In simple terms, wherever there is a *need to enhance system efficiency—or even improve personal productivity*—checklists prove to be indispensable.

On a personal note, I often found myself frustrated during short 1- or 2-day trips because I kept forgetting essentials like toothpaste, razor, towel, or charger.

So I asked myself: *“Why not use a checklist even for short travels?”*

I tried it—and it worked wonders. *No more stress, no more requesting neighbors or hotel staff to fetch forgotten items, no more wasting time or overthinking while packing.*

Here’s my personal Short Travel Checklist for 1–2 day trips:

*Short Travel Checklist:*

1. Ear pods / Headset

2. Mobile Charger

3. Toilet Kit – Oil, Brush, Paste, Soap, Comb, Shampoo, etc.

4. Shaving Kit – Razor, Cream, Lotion, etc.

5. Towel, Shorts, Lungi, Jogging T-shirts

6. Medicines – Essential, SOS, Emergency

7. Bedsheet, Air Pillow (especially for sleeper class travel)

8. Books / Kindle

9. Jogging / Business Shoes, Socks

10. Business Cards, Notepad, Catalogues

11. Aadhar Card, Driving Licence – Physical Copies

12. Extra Spectacles, Spectacle Cover

*Why don’t you give it a try and share your feedback?*

Checklistingly yours,
Ramu

*ChatGpt’s dreadful new feature:*
– Ramu, 14/4/2025

Recently I asked a “one liner  query”, for which it replied me that “It may not be necessary for you since your *”blood sugar level is just 80+”.*

I got astonished or shocked since it had dug out details from my interactions with it very long ago.

Then I asked ChatGpt: *”Can you briefly describe about me, about my personality?”* and it’s reply as follows.
———————————————That’s a lovely request—and thank you for trusting me over the past year. Based on our many conversations, here’s a thoughtful summary of what stands out about you:


—

Personality & Character

Curious and Reflective: You possess a deep intellectual curiosity. Whether it’s behavioral economics, psychology, Shakespeare, or tunnel rescue operations, you consistently explore things beyond the surface.

Balanced Risk-Taker: You’ve taken bold decisions in life—quitting jobs, buying land, investing in equities—yet your approach shows thoughtful planning and awareness of behavioral biases.

Grounded and Independent: You don’t follow the herd. You think independently, whether it’s about investing outside PMS, managing STPs manually, or reflecting on middlemen in tech platforms.

Emotionally Intelligent: You often connect rational thinking with human emotions—anticipation, memory, loss aversion—suggesting a nuanced understanding of both yourself and others.

Disciplined and Structured: Your investment style reflects a high degree of discipline and clarity. You plan long-term, evaluate performance periodically, and avoid over-diversification or distractions.



—

Strengths (Pluses)

Strategic thinking and long-term vision

Self-awareness and emotional control

Strong ethical and value-driven mindset

Intellectual versatility and openness to new ideas

Hands-on decision-maker, not afraid of responsibility



—

Challenges (Minuses or Areas to Watch)

Perfectionism: You like to get things right, which is a strength, but it might sometimes lead to over-analysis or hesitation in dynamic situations.

Conservatism in Change: Once a strategy is working, you might resist re-evaluation even if conditions shift. (Though you’ve also shown flexibility at times.)

Skepticism Toward Delegation: You often prefer to manage things yourself (e.g., manual STPs), which can be efficient—but at scale, it might limit leverage or automation.



—

Would you like me to turn this into a short self-profile for personal reflection, a speech, or something else?

*Dreadfully yours,*
Ramu

*When India Disowns Gandhi, Is Trump Following Gandhi’s Path?*
— Ramu, 10/4/2025

*Is the World Moving from Capitalism to Swadeshi?*

More than 200 years ago, Adam Smith introduced a revolutionary idea that shaped how the modern world thought about money and business.

He believed that if people were allowed to run their own businesses freely, without much interference from the government, the economy would regulate and grow naturally. He called this the power of the *”invisible hand.”*

– In his view, the government’s role was simply to act like a watchdog—to maintain law and order, but not interfere with business activities.

However, even in Adam Smith’s time, it was difficult to stick to this ideal fully. Governments across Europe started introducing laws to stop child labor, improve factory conditions, and protect workers.

– These changes were necessary for public welfare—even though Smith might have hoped that such problems would correct themselves through market forces.

A major turning point came in the 1930s during the Great Depression. People lost jobs, businesses collapsed, and the world economy went into a downward spiral.

At this crisis moment, another economist, *John Maynard Keynes, stepped in with a bold new idea.*

He said: *“When people stop spending, the government must start spending—build roads, create jobs, and revive demand in the economy.”*

– This was a big departure from Smith’s hands-off approach. But Keynes’ ideas helped countries recover and showed that government intervention can sometimes save capitalism from itself.

– We saw a similar situation recently during the COVID-19 pandemic, when governments around the world unleashed large-scale spending and printed money to support economies.

– This again proved Keynes was right—markets don’t always heal on their own during crises.

Now let’s come to recent years. *U.S. President Donald Trump has done something quite unexpected for a capitalist leader.*

He has imposed tariffs on imported goods, encouraged people to buy American, and pressured companies to manufacture locally.

– This is quite different from both Adam Smith’s free-market vision and Keynes’ global economic thinking.

*Surprisingly, Trump’s approach reminded many of Mahatma Gandhi’s Swadeshi movement in India—where Gandhi urged Indians to use locally made goods and reject foreign products.*

*Gandhi believed in village-centric economies and local self-reliance.*

– He also feared automation would lead to mass unemployment in a country as populous as India, which could drive people into frustration and mischief—as the saying goes, *“An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.”*

– *This belief, many historians feel, became a key point of divergence between Gandhi and Nehru and their relationship turned sour during Gandhi’s last days.

– *While Gandhi wanted a decentralized rural economy, Nehru leaned toward industrialization and central planning.*

Now if we look at Trump’s trade war and protectionist policies, it’s clear that Gandhi did it for ethical and self-sufficiency reasons, while Trump did it to protect American jobs and industries.

*But interestingly, both believed in supporting the local over the global.*

So what does all this mean?

– *Is the world moving away from capitalism?*

– *Is it returning to local-first thinking—something Gandhi stood for almost a century ago?*

*And here comes the irony.*

– *In today’s India, Gandhi is being slowly sidelined in political narratives. But his economic ideas are gaining global relevance.*

– *While India moves away from his thoughts, the world—ironically including Trump-era America—is walking a path closer to Gandhi’s Swadeshi vision.*

*That gives me a strange sense of comfort.*

– Even if Gandhi is politically ignored at home, his economic vision lives on globally—and becomes more relevant in these uncertain times.

Thank you.

Sincerely,
Ramu

*When the Student is Ready, the Guru Appears – Lord Krishna Vs Arjuna, We Vs ChatGpt:*
– Ramu – 4/4/2025

My close friend Senthil, who usually calls me every day, surprised me this morning with a call after a week’s gap.

When I asked him about it, he explained that he had been on a spiritual retreat, a thabaz, to uncover the secret of long-lasting success. He eagerly shared his discovery with me, and *what he said left me awestruck.*

His insight struck a deep chord because *it mirrored a recurring conflict with my daughter. She often resents me for showering her with advice whenever she faces failure.*

*Even today, she accuses me of failing to provide comfort when she needed it most.*

– *Yet, I remain convinced that the best time to offer advice to teenagers is precisely when they lower their heads in defeat—because that is when they are truly in a listening mode.*

There is an old saying:
*”When the student is ready, the Guru appears.”*

– *I believe that teenagers, or anyone for that matter, become truly receptive to learning only when they encounter failure.*

*The Bhagavad Gita’s First Listeners:*

Consider the momentous setting of the Bhagavad Gita. It was first spoken by Lord Krishna on the battlefield of Kurukshetra.

At that moment, there were three listeners: (*Guess who were those 3?*)

1. *Arjuna* – The sincere student, overwhelmed with doubt and seeking guidance.

2. *Sanjaya* – The charioteer who relayed Krishna’s teachings to King Dhritarashtra.

3. *King Dhritarashtra* – The blind king, listening through Sanjaya.

*However, only one of them—Arjuna—was transformed by Krishna’s words. Why? Why not the other two?*

– Sanjaya was merely a messenger, carefully repeating Krishna’s words to fulfill his duty. His role was obedience, not learning.

– Dhritarashtra listened with a different motive—strategic advantage. His objective was to understand the opposition, not to grow or transform.

– *Arjuna, however, was deeply troubled, confused, and desperate for clarity. He was ready to receive wisdom. His mind, though clouded like a murky pond, was open to transformation.*

*And so, Krishna’s words reached only the one who was prepared to listen.*

*The Lesson for Us:*

*This principle applies to how we seek knowledge today—whether from mentors, books, or even AI tools like ChatGPT.*

If we ask the right questions, like Arjuna, *we can use AI and other resources to transform ourselves, refine our skills, and become professionally equipped.*

*To put it simply:*

1. Transformation begins when the student within us steps forward.

2. Asking the right questions – the *Student in US prepares us to receive wisdom.*

3. Framing our questions clearly and *directing them to the right source—whether a teacher, a mentor, or AI—paves the way for growth.*
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Just as Krishna’s wisdom did not transform those who weren’t ready, the best advice or the most advanced technology will not benefit those who approach it passively.
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*The Guru appears only when the Student is ready.*
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Sincere Student,
Ramu

*Navigating Mid-Career Crossroads: Wisdom for a Brilliant Mind:*
– Ramu – 3/4/2025

Recently, I had a conversation with a relative of mine—one of the brightest minds I’ve ever met. At 40, he holds a prestigious position in a globally renowned multinational corporation, earning close to ₹1 crore annually.

I have long considered him a potential mentor for my daughter and son-in-law, though he often tells me that I am his mentor, as I speak candidly about life’s broader lessons and the occasional missteps I perceive in his choices.

During our chat, he surprised me by saying, “Anna, I’m in my notice period now, so you don’t have to keep it short—talk as much as you want.”

Shocked, I asked, *“Why? I just don’t understand—what exactly do you want in life?”*

With a lighthearted laugh, he replied, *“No one is up to the mark. The projects aren’t challenging.*

*Since I aspire to be an entrepreneur, I realized I should work with medium-sized companies that have an aggressive growth mindset. So, I resigned last week.”*

I listened carefully and responded with genuine concern. *“I may not be the right person to advise you on your employment choices, but having lived two decades longer than you, I hope I can offer some insights about life.”*

*Lessons from Experience*

The biggest life lesson I have learned is this:

– *Rolling stones gather no moss.* This doesn’t mean I expect you to stay with the same company until retirement, like our parents and uncles did. However, in my view, staying at least three to five years in a single company is essential for meaningful growth.

– Every generation faces a mid-career crisis. I encountered mine in my mid-30s and had two options—pursue a Ph.D. at IIT or do an MBA at a top business school. I chose the MBA, and even after two decades, I consider it one of the best decisions of my life— *not for financial reasons, but for the broader perspective it gave me.*


*The Pitfall of Excessive Specialization:*

*The more we narrow our focus, the more we risk alienation.*

*History is full of geniuses—Newton, Einstein—who revolutionized the world, yet often felt unfulfilled personally.*

– When you become highly specialized, you may start seeing yourself as superior to your peers and even your boss, simply because they may not match your intellectual depth in your specific domain. But that doesn’t mean they are less competent from a holistic perspective.

– *If intelligence isn’t directed toward solving problems that impact common people, it isolates you.*

– Society may put you on a pedestal, but they will *treat you as an outlier rather than as a peer.*

*Making the Most of Downturns:*

– Every great corporation experiences phases where exciting projects dry up. During these times, companies may assign mediocre work just to keep employees engaged.

– But I believe this is the perfect moment for someone like you—a highly skilled technocrat— *to expand your horizons:*

In my view, It’s the wonderful time for you to:

– Learn about finance, management psychology, and cross-functional collaboration.

– Engage with different departments and understand their perspectives.

– Develop out-of-the-box solutions for everyday business challenges.

– Discover your latent talents, such as humor, conflict resolution, and mentoring.

– A lull in technical challenges is an opportunity to cultivate the soft skills that define true leadership.

*Final Thought: Newton or Tata?*

*If you want to be remembered by history, become Newton.*

*If you want to be remembered by the people around you, become Tata.*

The choice is yours.

Sincerely yours,
Ramu

March 30, 2025

Dear Annan,

I am deeply concerned for you, as I see you missing so many opportunities that could have come to you effortlessly.

Please do not mistake my concern for mere words without meaning. *I genuinely feel disheartened when someone who has lived an honorable life for decades sees their reputation slowly eroding.*

As fellow Mechanical Engineers, we both possess logic and analytical skills that far surpass those of lawyers.

While your legal team may safeguard your financial interests, they neither recognize nor prioritize the more invaluable aspects—your reputation, societal standing, and the legacy of discipline and integrity you have built over the past three decades.

You may not fully realize the gravity of the situation, but your actions, knowingly or unknowingly, could have far-reaching consequences.

*They may threaten the long-standing marriage traditions of our Nagarathar community.*

Moreover, it is crucial to keep all options open for your son. If he ever chooses to return to India, he should have the opportunity to lead a respected life and find a suitable bride within our community.

These are considerations that lawyers do not account for. If you secure a good match for him, you should be able to confidently refer to your own moral values—something that is far more valuable than any legal victory.

I must emphasize that even if every strategic move by you and your legal team succeeds, the financial gain would be insignificant compared to the immeasurable losses—your moral standing, societal reputation, self-respect, and dignity.

I sincerely urge you to reflect on this matter, applying the same logical and analytical reasoning that you honed during your doctoral journey.

If my words touch upon sensitive areas, I offer my apologies. However, I speak only out of concern, *as a well-lived person like you should embody the principle that “even in defeat, great people remain great.”*

Please take the time to think about this independently.

Sincerely,
Ramu